The Genuine Reasons You’re Miserable At Work


There are plenty of reasons you may be unhappy in your job. Horrible bosses tend to top the list, but boredom, burnout, and busywork that knows no bounds are also viable reasons. But, based on dozens of research done about this very thing, It's recorded that most times the problem is not the job but the person.

Let’s say it’s not any of the above, in fact, you can’t pinpoint the source of your discontent on any one thing. You just know it’s not the position for you, and you’d like very much to quit and find something else.

Here’s the great thing about determining that it’s not your job that’s making you unhappy, it’s you: You may be able to turn it around immediately!

1) You Expect Things to Happen Overnight
You literally have a great idea and you shared it with your manager who seemed equally excited about the initiative. She promised to look into budget constraints, draw up a proposal based on your analysis and recommended direction. But you’ve since stopped because you used to bring it up frequently.

This is, no doubt, one of the most frustrating parts of working with others in an organization that has a lot of moving pieces. Irregardless of how head-banging it can feel to hope for change that no one else seems to care about making happen, it’s not a genuine reason for being sad in your job.

Your awesome boss, cool colleagues, and manageable workload won’t distract from the fact that you’re unhappy because you hate the work. You can’t blame the CEO because you’ve decided that working on a production team isn’t your calling. If your long, hard look at your discontent leads you to conclude that you’re in the wrong career, well then, at least you have next steps.

Take it as a positive that your ideas are heard because, you know, at a lot of organizations, that’s far from the reality. If the day-to-day part of your job is going smoothly, and it’s ultimately your impatience that’s getting the best of you and perhaps ineffective goal-setting try to see if being patient and rewriting those ideas changes anything.


2. Taking Things Personally
The feedback from your boss that the strategy you formulate for getting the company’s product recognized internationally wasn’t the best, and you’ve been tasked with revising it based on their notes. You really can’t believe you put so much blood, sweat, tears into the ideas, only to be told it’s not going to work.

Whoa, if this sounds familiar, you really need to take a step back. While you’re at it, take a deep breath too. Negative feedback is part of the job; don’t you know that yet? This isn’t the leadership team saying you’re a contemptible employee. This is them saying, “Good start, but let’s look a little more closely at these points.”

It’s not easy getting to a point in your job where you don’t take criticism personally, but it’s absolutely essential to your success. And if you’re struggling with truculent feelings at work, have you stopped to consider that they emanate from your inclination to take everything not identified as praise as a hit at your character and competence? Try changing your mindset and see if it helps you move past the traumatic concerned.

However, if the reason it’s not your job, it’s simply you, because you’re in the wrong industry, no amount of learning not to take it personally or reconfiguring goals and practicing patience is going to work.

In no circumstances, should you default to assuming it’s your job that’s the problem. When it comes to career growth and success, taking ownership is part of the foundation.

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